Okay, so you’re in a pinch. The store is closed. You have no detergent. What do you do? Do not reach for the softener. Instead, try a tiny squirt of dish soap (like a half-teaspoon) or a handful of baking soda. These are better than nothing and won’t ruin your clothes.
If you absolutely must use fabric softener, use it in addition to something that cleans. Mix a capful of softener with a little shampoo or dish soap. But honestly? Just skip it and let the water do the heavy lifting. Cold water and a good rinse cycle can handle light wear.
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